Tuesday, June 2, 2015

My Mami has Dementia



My Mami has Dementia 

My mami has dementia
she’ll never be the same again
she’s happy when she’s having fun
and always wins at games

She lives in/for the present moment 
and is not aware of time
obsesses on what she wants to do
and always wants her way

She makes up stories and believes them
will not admit she’s wrong
never wants to say, I’m sorry
throws a tantrum to express her way

Possessive, she won’t share her things
not trusting, she won’t accept the new
forgets when she hurts others feelings
believes herself and not what others say

She wants to keep her independence
and won’t admit her needs
not want to bathe or brush her teeth
will wear the same clothes every day

She hides her stuff and then denies it
fears people will take her things
she is afraid that we will leave her
that one day she will lose her way

No matter how my mami is  
she’s loved me all my years
I'll always do my best for her
like she always did for me 

50 years ago!

I wrote this while spending a week taking care of my mother.  She's had dementia for some years but still lives in her own house.

Read this other post I wrote about how we took away her car at 90 years old!! http://filledwithretirement.blogspot.com/2013/05/90-and-with-dementia-means-no-more_8.html